Welcome to “Why I Yelled,” Fatherly’s ongoing series in which real dads discuss a time they lost their temper in front of their wife, their kids, their coworker — anyone, really — and why. The goal of this isn’t to examine the deeper meaning of screaming or come to any great conclusions. It’s about yelling and what really triggers it. Here, Peter, a 33-year-old new father in Houston explains why he blew his top at his mother-in-law.
When was the last time you yelled?
Oh I don’t know. But the time I most recently remember was about two weeks ago.
Okay. What happened?
I lost my temper with my mother-in-law.
Do you normally have a good relationship with her?
Honestly, yes. I love her. She has a great sense of humor and is really warm and caring. She also loves watching college football — she’s a big UT fan — which gives us something to bond over. We never once had a moment; she’s always been warm and lovely to me.
Okay. So what did she do that got under your skin?
Well, some backstory: we are new parents. We have a two-month old little girl. My in-laws were here for about a month to give us a hand with the early days. And it was fantastic and such a big help.
[laughs] but they have a tendency to want to take care of everything because they knew best. They were quick to hold her when she was crying, change her diapers, swaddle her, etc. While the help was appreciated, I didn’t want them to be taking every opportunity to care for her. I needed time with my daughter, too. I think that’s ridiculous. My wife was getting lots of time during late night feedings but I was getting very little. I mean, one morning the baby was crying and I…