By Lakshmi Govindrajan Javeri
Which parent doesn’t imagine a holiday without kids? A holiday with kids is often not a holiday; it’s a business trip full of tantrums, over-expectations, sales skills tested in getting them out for sightseeing, and endless days of fatigue. Valentine’s Day is as good a day as any, to remember the love that may have given rise to the very children who should sometimes be left behind.
If the mind tells you that you and your husband deserve a little time off from children and responsibilities, your wretched heart would yearn for those booger-bums most of the time you’re holidaying. And if your heart seeks some time out from parental responsibilities, your overactive mind will drive you insane with scheduling and planning your child’s days in your absence. You cannot win this one without feeling bad about it. Even a teensy bit.
Nevertheless, you should be able to take off guilt-free. For the most part at least. “Anxiety works both ways. I would love for my husband and I to go on more holidays alone, but we often can’t because of school schedules and finding suitable options for guardians. So we try and work it out that the time we’re away, our son has a few days of school and a few days of holidays. That way, waking up early and sending off to school doesn’t get too intense for my in-laws. At the same time, entertaining him for days on end is not an option either. Everybody’s happy,” says Tanvi Garg, a copywriter from Mumbai.
Garg also believes that when a couple goes on a holiday, it becomes a learning experience for all involved. “The kids learn to respect their parents’ space while also learning to be more independent and dealing with all kinds of emotions on their own; the parents learn to let go and that although they are pivotal in their child’s life, their child is mostly okay without them. And the grandparents or other caregivers in…
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