Most of my friends that made the decision to have children by and large tended to have them in their late ‘20s to their early ‘30s. As far as I can tell, it has been pretty rare for anyone amongst my circle of friends to either plan on having children after they reach the age of 35 or know of anyone that is an older mother or father.
In contrast, while my mother was about the same age as my friends were when she gave birth to me, my parents waited eight years before having a second child and therefore, my mother was in her late ‘30s when my little sister was born.
My mother will be the first to tell anyone that asks that there was a huge contrast between her experiences being a mother at a younger age and being a mother in her late ‘30s, since when she was pregnant with my little sister she had to go through more tests to make sure that everything was well.
For mothers planning to have their first child after they hit the age of 35, the following list of tips and recommendations to keep in mind will help make the transition to dealing with a baby a little bit easier.
Getting Pregnant Is More Difficult Than It Used To Be
USA Today points out that after age 35, it is much more difficult for women to get pregnant than it is for their younger counterparts. This is due to the fact that they ovulate less frequently than they used to do thanks to Mother Nature being a massive pain in the neck.
Younger women may not look forward to ovulation because it is a forerunner to “that time of the month” and all of the menstrual cramps that come along with it, but who knew that once they’re older, they might miss it?
Women can’t get a break—either there are menstrual cramps that hurt when they are younger or less frequent ovulation interferes with their life plans to get pregnant at an older age.
Freezing Is A Good Backup Plan
USA Today points out that if a woman is planning on getting pregnant at an older age, many fertility specialists suggest that the best course of action is to freeze either her eggs or embryos before the age of 35.
That way, she’ll have a higher chance of a successful pregnancy and will be able to become a mother despite the odds being against her.
However, fertility specialists also warn that while technically eggs or embryos can be implanted in women up to ages 55, they say it is best to undergo the process as early as possible in order to increase the chances of having a successful pregnancy.
Save Money For A Few Years Before Planning To Have A Child
USA Today adds that if parents plan on having their first child after their mid-30s, they recommend it is best to start saving money a few years before they want to begin their family.
That way, parents who have a stable job can put aside money for their child’s schooling and create an emergency fund, just in case. It’s not just colleges that have gotten quite expensive in this day and age; you’re also going to wind up paying a pretty penny if you want to enroll your child in a prestigious private elementary or high school when they are older.
Think About Your Child’s Future And Make Plans
USA Today adds that it is also important that parents, especially mothers, who are over the age of 35 when they have their first child make plans for the future. This is because they will be a bit older than other parents that had children earlier when their kiddos are ready to go to college.
It means making provisions for who will help take care of their children in an emergency, especially if their own parents will be too elderly and too infirm by the time their little one is an adult. They might also want to make preparations for another member of the family to help take care of them so they don’t have to put that burden on their child.
Come To Terms With Asking Family Or Friends For Help When Your Child’s Older
When it comes time to making provisions for the future and possible backup plans, USA Today writes that it is important to come to terms with the fact that you will have to ask your family and friends for help at some point in time.
It can be difficult for some people to lower their pride and ask for help from either their friends and family. But it should be done so that way you will have the peace of mind that comes from knowing that if anything should happen, your child will have someone to help take care of them.
Be Realistic About The Generation Gap
Nowadays, it seems as if younger parents want to be “cool” and strive to be able to easily relate to their child by building up a strong rapport with them.
USA Today warns parents who are thinking of having their first child after they pass their mid-30s that they have to keep in mind that there is going to be a generational gap between themselves and their child. Depending on their future child’s personality, they might easily adjust to the huge generational gap, but there is always the chance that they might have some issues and parents need to be prepared for that too.
You’re Going To Feel More Tired Throughout Your Pregnancy
Let’s face it, pregnancy is absolutely exhausting for women no matter what age they are. After all, you’re carrying a fetus and preparing your future bundle of joy to be able to survive outside the womb. The act of labor is also rigorous.
I’ve heard plenty of stories from my mother’s friends about how they felt so tired after giving birth that they wanted to sleep for an entire week.
Parenting adds that for women that are in their mid-30s and older, pregnancy can be even more exhausting due to the fact that they’re a little bit older and all of the hormonal changes that are going on in their body.
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