There are several weeks where babies aren’t really doing anything particularly interesting on the surface. That’s the time to explore.
Parents who have passed the adrenaline peak of infancy may suddenly realize that their two-month-old baby is kind of boring. This weeks-long lull occurs after routines have been established but the cascade of social-media friendly milestones, like rolling over and crawling, are still on the horizon. It’s an easy phase for parents to start establishing “phubbing” behavior instead of making an active effort to have fun. But that’s likely due to a parents misunderstanding of the resilience and flexibility many babies possess.
“Our lives rotate around our kids but we don’t recognize we have a lot more flexibility than it seems,” explains positive psychologist Dr. Robert Zeitlin, author of Laugh More, Yell Less: A Guide to Raising Kick-Ass Kids. He notes that parents often feel like they’re trapped by a baby’s schedule, or may worry too much about their child’s fragility. “There’s a way to explore and expose our baby to fun things in different surroundings. And at the same time expose them to a different part of us that’s having fun.”
Talk to a friend with more than one child. They will happily explain that by the time child two or three comes along, any semblance of careful adherence to a strict schedule and cloistered babyhood goes out the window. It’s not that the second baby is any different. New parents have just relaxed…