When they were just little bundled up infants, my twin boys would cry when I left them at day care. They would miss me so much I couldn’t even get out the door before the crying would start. These days, as two independent toddlers, they go running in the door and barely look back at me. It’s nice to know they love the day care and the teachers so much, but it makes me feel underappreciated. It’s taken some time to learn to deal with it.
My wife and I spent months touring what seemed like every day care in the region to find the perfect one for us. Like many other obsessive parents, we made a spreadsheet, took countless tours and read reviews online. We eventually decided on one that we loved from the start based on the facilities, teachers, curriculum and food. Little did we know they’d love it so much our twins would never want to leave.
The moment we pull into the parking lot each morning, the boys get excited. It’s a bit like when we visit our family with other dogs and our dog starts circling the back seat and trying to jump out the window. The boys start laughing, bouncing up and down and sometimes singing as we arrive. I can barely get them out of the car and into jackets fast enough; they just want to run inside. They don’t even look back at me as I drop off their bottles and supplies for the day. I try kissing them goodbye, but they are already busy walking around the room with toys. Daddy doesn’t get a second glance, a wave or even acknowledgement while leaving.
It makes me feel like we picked the right school since they love it so much. Clearly they have a special relationship with the staff and teachers, and are entertained during the day. But when they spend…