When we are infants the first love we feel is for our parent or parents. As we grow into childhood, we experience love for a sibling or a friend. When we enter our teenage years, we feel what is often called puppy love, followed by true love for a partner in life.
Many of us then have children, which is when we often feel we couldn’t love another human being more than we do our children. I’ve always said my children have brought the best and also the worst things to my life. When you love someone to such an extreme, it’s only natural for them to also trigger the opposite extreme emotions.
As parents we often oscillate between being willing to kill someone to protect our children to wanting to strangle our children. Being a parent is one of the most difficult and thankless jobs, especially before they reach adulthood
We not only keep our kids alive, if you are doing it right you also nurture, educate and prepare them for adulthood and the world they will live in. This is the end game, getting them to launch and land successfully on their own two feet out in the world, not in our guestroom.
This has always been my main goal as a parent, to have my children become productive, mostly happy adults working toward achieving their goals. I say mostly happy, because even though we don’t want our children to experience disappointment or pain, those are the things that help us to grow and be stronger as individuals.
We need to raise our kids to be able to handle disappointment, rejection, not getting their way, or not always winning. These are things they should experience…