5 tips to preserve your peace while co-parenting.
Marrying and divorcing a narcissist is rough, but co-parenting with a narcissist is almost impossible. The demands, attacks, threats, and attempts to inflict guilt are so skillful, they rattle a parent, sabotaging his or her mental health.
However, awareness of the narcissist’s dysfunctional tactics protects the parent struggling in this situation. Once these relational patterns are identified, it is easier to co-parent with a narcissist.
1. Expect nastiness and ignore. Backhanded comments and character attacks are a narcissist’s favorite pass times. Expecting these attacks prepares a person. They become easier to ignore. Otherwise, when a narcissist blindsides you, it feels like an emotional slap in the face, which evokes a knee jerk reaction. This is the narcissist’s goal. They want to elicit an emotional response, so they can accuse you of being, “out of control.”
2. Be aware of triangulation. A narcissist loves to align one person, or group of people, with them and against another person. In other words, efforts to align the kids against you, hoping to put you in the position of “bad guy,” may be frequent. Deflect this attempt by following a few guidelines:
Decide if the situation is safe or unsafe. For example, if the narcissist allows the kids to eat ice cream for breakfast, he…