People have been smoking marijuana for hundreds of years. And, inevitably, some of those people have been parents. Today, as cannabis becomes legalized in more states across the U.S., parents are facing the challenges—both privately and publically—of how to talk about the substance with their children, as well as how to orient parenting around their own usage. To get a better sense of how parents make these decisions and to see what they’ve learned on the job, we reached out to a few for insight.
“My husband and I,” states Seattle resident Kelly Fleek, “neither one of us believe in lying to our kids. It’s an ineffective manner of parenting. So, we basically made the decision when they were little to answer any questions they had, age-appropriately but with honesty.” Fleek explains she and her husband, Alton, had drastically different upbringings when it came to cannabis, and notes, “We tried to strike a balance between the way both of us had been raised.”
The Fleeks didn’t take their decision to be open and honest (though age-appropriate) with their children lightly. And while they never smoked in the house or left paraphernalia around when their kids were small (the Fleek daughters are now 21 and 25), they did use cannabis recreationally and medically—and still do. “We have never been the kind of parents to have ‘The Talk,’” she says. “We didn’t treat our kids like little adults, but we did treat them with a lot of equity. And we stressed communication.”
Now that their kids are…