What happens when you meet your soulmate at 45? You decide that if kids are meant to be, they’re meant to be. That’s the reality Kimberly Rubin was faced with 10 years ago. And with an 18-month-old running around today, above all, she’s grateful.
In a new video for The Scene, Rubin describes her unconventional—and inspirational—road to motherhood.
“When I was 44, I was in a really dark place,” she says. “The last of my single friends was pregnant. I had really lost my thirties; I was with someone on and off for 11 years, but he just never was the one. I really felt like it would never happen for me.”
But a friend introduced her to a man named Nova. By 48, she was married to the love of her life.
“I chose to have faith,” she says. “If I’m meant to be a mother, I’m going to be.”
Eventually, Rubin and her husband started exploring surrogacy. But an appointment with a Beverly Hills infertility specialist, Sam Najmabadi, MD, changed everything.
“I met a fertility doctor. He said, ‘Why do you feel that you need a surrogate?’” And I said, ‘I’m 52 years old!’ And he said, ‘Well, you’re so young in spirit. I’d like to give you an exam. You just have to have a healthy uterus to carry a child to term.’”
Spoiler: That’s exactly what she did.
We spoke with Rubin to learn more about her journey, and her advice for any woman—regardless of age—who is struggling to get pregnant.
“I want to be an advocate; it’s never too late to be what you want to be,” she tells The Bump. Time is not linear—I’ve learned that.”
Rubin knows she’s incredibly fortunate. “Certainly, I’m not saying that every woman who goes in to a fertility specialist is going to have success,” she says. “But I also did so much to prepare my body, mind and spirit for this baby. My husband did not want children when we met. I grappled with this for a long time. I found this incredible man, but he didn’t share my dream. I called my sister crying. She said, ‘Kim, you have to focus on what you do have, not on what you don’t have. At this point in your life, are you willing to sacrifice love for a dream that may never come true?’”
With that in mind, she made the choice, in her words, to surrender. And after eight years together, her husband came around.
“He finally broke down,” she explains. “He said, ‘At the end of your life, it…