I’ve been with my husband for almost 13 years. In that time, we’ve faced just about every possible scenario a couple could possible face. I’m talking births, deaths, near-divorce, and so much laughter and joy it’s hard to imagine going through life differently. But (because there’s always a but), there are some ways my pregnancy almost ended my relationship. Turns out, growing another human being in my body was a true test of our devotion to one another, and at a time we weren’t sure what we wanted out of life (or love).
Back then, when I first found out I was pregnant with our now 10-year-old daughter, we looked at life through a naive fog. Where optimism lacked, it was replaced with a profound hope that love was all we needed to get through anything. As dreamy as it sounds, relationships take a lot more effort than wishful thinking and, well, our relationship was no different. Once I became (unexpectedly) pregnant, it was clear how unprepared each of us were — not only for parenthood, but for the responsibility of co-parenting through a mature, realistic lens.
Now that we’re about to celebrate 10 years of marriage, I can say, without a doubt, we’ve grown up both together and as individuals. I’m pretty proud of us for sticking it out to be sure, but all this reflecting also reminds me of the times pregnancy almost ended our very beautiful thing.
There’s nothing like a “surprise” pregnancy (while on birth control) to shake up a relationship, especially when we’d only been together just over a year. While neither one of us were technically too young to parent,…